We hope you have enjoyed the last few months as much as we have. We
have been hard at work preparing our second season with incredible
interviews and new content, and we can’t wait to share them with you. In
honor of our first interview airing Friday June 2nd with
Laurel Butler, lead singer of Cassandra the Band, educator, artist and
activist in the LA area, I want to talk about the notion of
Laurel talks about this a lot and it really got us thinking, chuggernauts. We have
this idea -- as Americans, and especially as women -- that we need be perfect in everything we do. Appearance is just one way the quest for perfection is forced upon women, but it manifests in other aspects of life too. Sometimes Liz procrastinates on projects when she knows already that the outcome won’t be perfect. Why start at all if you can never reach perfect, right? (Wrong.)
Lately I’ve been wondering if this idea makes it really difficult for us to develop into better humans and exemplary feminist women. When I’ve tried to reach perfection in recent days, I’ve been served a big ol’ can of whoop ass. Turns out, holding myself to an impossible standard does
nothing but stunt my growth.
This made me wonder: If we are certain in our minds that perfection can be achieved, does that mean we assume we are omnipotent, and always right? Have I been stunting my own development and open mind this entire time?
The desire for discourse and to be challenged is squashed if we know we’re always right, and I strongly believe that discourse is a fundamental aspect of our democracy. We better be out there asking to be proven wrong, because if the whole world were stupider than I, I’m not sure I have a whole lot of faith that we won’t blow up, at best. For the first time in my life, I don’t feel pulled down by the chains of striving for perfection because I now know that life will be better if I strive for imperfection sometimes too.
We can’t always get it right. I won’t wake up one day knowing
everything there is to know. I will (often) not craft the perfect response
to hard questions. Sheesh, I won’t even put together the perfect
response to a super conservative family member’s Facebook post. Even when I feel I’m on the more progressive side of a conversation I mess up and say things steeped in privilege sometimes. And you know what? That’s perfectly ok. We are all perfectly imperfect and pretending that we
are anything else does our true selves a serious injustice.
To really put in the work, to dismantle the systems that have
oppressed so many, we have to come as we are. We have to come with
imperfect perceptions and wrong ideas. But we have to actually bring them to the table instead of hiding in our comfortable places. If my ideas were never challenged… I don’t even want to think about how boring that would get.
In being wrong we can learn how to be right. Community over
competition, listening instead of talking, lifting instead of pushing
down. These are the things that America needs from us.
So come as you are to the discussion. Come as you are to the fight.
We will be here to support you and learn with and from you.
Listen to our new season on Tuesdays with True Confessions and
Feminist Fridays with interviews from some of the most amazing women
we have ever known.